Only about 50% of children raised in the Church stay active in church as adults. We believe that the problem lies, not with what the church is doing or not doing, but with what desperately needs to happen in the home.
We believe that the first God-ordained institution is the family. As mentioned in past Faith Path posts here and here, the responsibility of raising up future generations to know, love, and serve the Lord God rests on the shoulders of the parents.
“Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them fade from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.” Deuteronomy 4:9
The desire of Christian parents for their children is that they grow up to be strong in faith and strong in character. The accompanying responsibility can weigh on our minds, and sometimes manifests in a rigid, sermonizing approach to teaching our children.
Instead, we want to encourage you to create intentional moments in an environment where faith and love is passed to your children, marked by fun and creativity. We call this Family Time.
This step’s purpose in the Faith Path is to establish the practice of connecting as a family while passing spiritual truths to your child.
Family Time helps to…
- Creates laughter
- Creates impressions
- Makes memories
- Teaches spiritual and Biblical truths
Whether it be with mealtime conversations, devotions, bedtime or drivetime activities…
“These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” Deuteronomy 6:6-7
Things You Can Do to Make Family Time Impactful
- Set aside and schedule family time
- Prioritize this time
- Protect your time together
- Plan your activities
- Go with the flow
- Affirm one another, parents and siblings
- Involve extended family
- Spend time around the table
- Ask questions
- Provide opportunities to dialogue and ask more questions
What Not To Do
- Don’t doubt the long-term impact Family Time has on your child.
“I still remember some of our Family Night sayings… I’m 19 now, and I learned them when I was 10 or 11.”
- Don’t give up! Some nights are a homerun and others seem to strike out, but be encouraged by this promise in Isaiah 55:10-11.
“As the rain and the snow come down from heaven, and do not return to it without watering the earth and making it bud and flourish, so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater, so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.”
When you intentionally prioritize family time, children understand that that time, they themselves, and what your are teaching are important. It doesn’t need to be elaborate to become something that both you and your children look forward to, and grow from in relationship with one another and Jesus Christ.
While the ultimate responsibility lies with the parent, we will walk alongside to equip and support you with resources pointing you to examples of how to implement Family Time in your own home, and guide you to further resources with a treasure trove of ideas for age appropriate activities highlighting what the Scriptures teach about faith and following God.
Get The Kit
To help you get started, this kit includes a guide that offers practical tips and what we consider the best resources on the Family Time. The Creating Impression Points card and an activity called Just Like Air are ideal to start the process with a younger child. We’ve also provided a fun Family Time song that will get everyone in the mood for the best time of the week as well as Family Time stickers to mark the calendar.
Access all of these resources and more by visiting the Home Pointe resources page on our website.