Blessing is more than a gift received, a way opened; it’s an action. As a parent, blessing your child is actively choosing to add value to them, requesting God’s favor upon them.
The most important blessing your child needs is your affirmation of their value, communicating unconditional acceptance and love. This blessing of your child is transformational in their development into a man or woman of God.
The blessing process is an unleashing process.
When you bless your son or daughter, you give them permission to go out and change the world in the power of God.
As God has commissioned a work in the life of your child, so you walk the path of life alongside them, affirming that unique purpose and their identity as a child of God.
When he created your child, God created a unique individual, unlike any other person who has existed or will ever exist. Along with their unique personality and physical characteristics, there is a unique plan and purpose for your child’s life. It’s your responsibility to communicate that to them.
We want to share five elements that allow you to communicate and bless your child effectively, by using an easy-to-remember acronym.
Five Elements of an Effective Blessing
Say it (verbalize: 1st in marriage with your partner in raising your child)
Just as the first steps along this Faith Path begin with the commitment of the parents, so does the blessing process. Be committed to your child, intentionally and genuinely, through seasons of life.
Secondly, follow the example of Jesus in loving touch. There is affirmation in affirmation when words of blessing are coupled with touch.
“Then people brought little children to Jesus for him to place his hands on them and pray for them.” Matthew 19:13
Perhaps you are unsure of what to say in blessing your child. Look at “E”. An effective blessing expresses the value of your child, uniquely and specifically. This is not about their achievements or exemplary behavior, but rather their innate value as your child and identity as a one-of-a-kind creation of God.
In expressing value you also see your child’s potential, whether that be a servant’s heart, compassion, leadership qualities, etc. Part of a blessing is helping your child see and affirm that potential as well; to see and be excited about all that God can do in, with, and through them.
Lastly, you are called to verbalize this blessing. There are too many who claim to know they were loved and yet have never heard it. As you committed to training up your child, and have seen the value and potential in the gift of your son or daughter, speak truth and blessing into their lives.
Some Tips from Lake Pointe Parents on Blessing
- Establish the practice of praying for and giving a blessing to your child on a routine basis.
- Demonstrate love and affirmation without special performance or occasion to communicate that your child is loved and worthy just as God made them: a child of God, and your child.
- Be intentional with loving touch.
- Use specific words to affirm and encourage.
- Pray Scripture over your child.
- Practice affirmation in the family, amongst siblings and extended family.
We want to provide you with resources to illustrate the lifelong practice of blessing and help you develop your own practice of blessing in your home. You can find more information here.
It is our hope that as you are intentional and committed to affirming your child, they will be blessed and also learn how to bless, and be a blessing, to others.
“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.” Numbers 6:24-26
Access all of these resources and more by visiting the Home Pointe resources page on our website.